#Respect#One Tribe#S inspiration positive words
60% of straight women say they would never date a bisexual. 50% of straight men say they would never date a bisexual. 40% of gay men and lesbians say they would never date a bisexual. Bisexuals are obviously just greedy. They’re just bisexual so they can sleep with fewer people and lose opportunities for relationships based solely on their sexual orientation.
trick-ix said: Hi, I recently read an article about a college official saying something about teaching women not to drink so they don't get raped, & the backlash he received for it. The comments were, of course, filled with people defending him for saying something that is "just common sense." Do you know of resources or stats or ideas that help with addressing people who so firmly believe that it's necessary to keep warning women about behaviors like drinking that "increase risk"? Thanks
That point of view is pretty common, unfortunately. There are some scholarly articles located here that address common rape myths and victim blaming.
Here is another article that mentions how dangerous some misconceptions about rape can be, specifically perpetuation of the belief that a rapist will be some stranger in a dark alley.
Here is another list of rape myths and the truth, with facts.
One in Four provides some numbers and statistics for sexual assault as well.
Another thing to keep in mind is that not only do these lists of “safe” behaviors often mislead their audience about how and when sexual assault may occur, there is an implicit sense that someone else who is less informed might be raped and it would then, presumably, be their own fault for not knowing the proper behaviors or following them to the letter. Worse still, it implies an attitude of “get her, not me” and incessant policing of women.
This is unacceptable. Enforcing laundry lists of rules and regulations for potential victims does nothing to address the rape culture that keeps not only allowing this kind of behavior but encouraging it, while simultaneously shaming survivors who speak out or seek justice.
Living this way is like living in a house where the rafters are draped with live wires. We might stoop to avoid them all we want, avoiding certain rooms or certain conditions, but until we fix the problem at the source, nothing will change and the danger will still remain.
If we insist on keeping our focus on what women can do to avoid rape, we imply that the power to prevent rape rests with them. In reality, the only way to stop rape is to stop the rapist.
Save this to your phones or computer and post it on other websites like twitter too!
LOOK AT THIS. LOOK AT THIS, MEN WHO DO THIS, AND FEEL FOOLISH
Do you see how ridiculous this looks? How obscene?
1) I’m tired of these videos “if ____ did ______” or “Shit _____ Say” but this IS a good illustration of how stupid and absurd heteronormative male behavior is towards women.
2) Just watch the video on Youtube here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YP-De6pudm4) instead of clicking on the link in the post. It’s made by Buzzfeed but all these Upworthy-type sites embed OTHER PEOPLE’S CONTENT into their site and get ad revenue/clicks/etc and it’s annoying as hell.
He did it. He actually managed to describe how it feels to live with depression and suicidal tendencies.
this is really, really important
This reminds me of what I was discussing yesterday about needing bad with the good in relationships